Sunday, February 11, 2018

New Year, New York

This year for my birthday and New Year's, I flew the coup and headed to NYC to stay five days with Shawn while Letizia and her boyfriend Olivier were visiting for the first time from France.

Kicking off the trip, Shawn took me out to lunch at Sakagura for my birthday.  It's hidden in the basement of an office building in midtown, but once there, you step right into Japan.  We seriously enjoyed our sake pairing and multi-course lunch, featuring incredibly fresh sashimi and the best shrimp tempura I've ever had (how does shrimp become as smooth as butter?).  As illustrated in my obnoxious smile, I was very happy.


That afternoon we met up with Letizia and Olivier!  It was their first time in New York City, in fact Olivier's first time in America, so we spent the days we had with them playing tour guide (ok, mostly Shawn did).  We started at the NYC Public Library, and spent the rest of the afternoon meandering around town, taking in the Christmas trees at Bryant Park and Rockefeller Center, walking through Times Square, that kind of thing. 

 

 
 
We spent at least an hour at Levi's 
personal shopping for the boys in Times Square

KEVIN!

For dinner, we made our way to Red Rooster in Harlem, which was super hip and fun.  The highlight of my birthday dinner was when they brought out an entire fried chicken with a huge sparkler in it! At first I thought this was a special birthday treat just for me, but before we knew it there was lots of fowl play. After dinner, the hostess sneaked us downstairs to the live music club where we enjoyed the musical stylings of a hip, James Brown-esque young man who rolled soul, funk, and even the Beatles and Christmas ballads all up into one incredible vibe.  I realize I've used the term "hip" twice to describe this place, which makes me sound ancient, but really it could be in Webster's to define the word. 



The next morning Shawn and I got a late start, and as the snow fell, we made our way to ramen at Nishida Sho-ten.  This was some seriously good ramen, people. 

 
For good luck, she filled the sake glass to overflow into the box, 
the box onto the plate.  #nodropleftbehind

The rest of the evening included Washington Square Park, trying on furs at a vintage shop, visiting the Oculus at the World Trade Center, dinner at Eataly, and a stop to see the Wall Street bull (but more importantly the tiny feminist!). 


At the end of this night we caught the train back up to the Bronx and experienced my favorite public transit story to date, now called The Dollar Story.  If I can transcribe it accurately, I'll give it its own blog post, but if not, please just ask me to tell you in person next time you see me. 

On New Year's Eve, Letizia and Olivier came into Manhattan again and regaled us with stories of their Baptist mass over burgers at Harlem Shake. 


Before I go on, let's talk about cold, baby.  The weekend I was there the temperatures were breaking all kinds of record lows; in fact, it was the coldest New Years Eve since the early '60s.  Word on the street was that as midnight marked the new year, crazies at Times Square were ringing it in at -4 degree wind chill.  In diapers.

Doors swing open into restaurants and wind-shook customers shoot a stink eye at the newcomers to close the damn door and make it snappy.  During a desperate cafe break from the elements, one hot beverage doesn't afford enough time for one's toes to thaw.  And God forbid you don't know exactly where you're going and have to de-glove your brittle blue fingers to use Google maps on the street.

Walking the highline that day felt like a scene from a dystopic novel where a mismatched group of survivors has to walk the train tracks through what was once NYC to make it to the rumored remains of civilization on the other side.

The setting of our Apocalypse
Finding shelter in a subway station

I found this accidental photo (below) on my phone and it perfectly captures my bomb cyclone (whatever that means) experience.

Things I have taken for granted living in CA:
  1. Feeling my face
  2. Wearing only one coat
  3. Thinking eyeballs don’t get cold
  4. The ability to romanticize winter

In fact, when I returned home and relayed my apocalyptic experience to Brittany, she was rapt, confessing she'd always romanticized the east coast winters too, but hearing my story she knows now that she could never do it.  I'm glad I can share my story and save other Californians from the perils real winter.  I know understand why real estate out here is the way it is. 

Letizia's someone I'd like to have around during the apocalypse

 Finally saw STOMP!
Trivia: it opened in London in 1991-older than I thought!


Dinner at Ngam, innovative Thai fusion
Think Iron Chef "Thai pot pie"-so good!

That night, Shawn and I decided to skip the crowds and instead reserved a private Korean karaoke room for ourselves.  We drank prosecco, lazed on the couch, and belted our hearts out mostly to divas like Celine and Demi.  At one point Shawn surprised me and put on a song called "Saturday Love" that became one of ours a long time ago when we heard it a handful of times on the radio in one weekend.  By chance, we sang out 2017 to “O-o-h child, things are gonna get easier,” and sang in the new year with “You can go your own way.” We had a great time and didn't have to put up with the drunken, freezing masses.  It was definitely a 30-something kind of New Years. 


On New Years Day we got brunch and walked through the park before I took the train from Harlem up to Larchmont to visit with Letizia and the family she was staying with.

My incredibly auspicious, New Years Day Hamilton 
found on the streets of New York

Walking through Central Park, we noticed that the northern-most lake was completely frozen over. Dauntingly, there were multiple sets of human tracks from one side of the lake to the other.  Seeing multiple emergency ladders around, we presumed that these people don't always make it all the way across.  Circling the lake, we found a shallow area where visitors were trying their luck out on the ice. A small constituency of nine-year-old local ice skaters walked by on their way to the approved rink. A precocious, wise-beyond-his-years nine-year-old boy saw the precarious explorers and called out knowingly, "Thin ice…wouldn’t recommend it!"  Now we say it all the time.


Larchmont, about 40 minutes north of Manhattan, is a gorgeous waterfront town filled with historic mansions, and I got to stay in one.  Check it:


Letizia and Olivier made scallops and duck for dinner, and we just enjoyed the company, food, and wine, not to mention the beautiful home (I think there were nine rooms?!).


 Exploring Larchmont the next morning

Taking a forever Uber ride back into Manhattan, we had the most entertaining driver who said he writes music.  If you ever hear an Ariana song called "Light it Up" or Rihanna songs titled "What I do" or "Love in the Sand," well that was our Merecco.  He said I should be a writer in the music industry.  He said a lot of things.

On the Ikea ferry to Brooklyn
A Parisian (or two) in America
Hometown BBQ in Red Hook, Brooklyn

That is queso mac and cheese!  My mouth is watering.

Brooklyn bridges

That evening we met up with Shawn for dinner and to see Ghost Train Orchestra at Dizzy's at Lincoln Center.  My God, the talent in NYC is unparalleled!


On my last day, I met up with Letizia and Olivier to visit the Museum of Natural History, and then we continued through Central Park, which Letizia simply could not get enough of.


And as is always the case, this wonderful weekend had to come to an end.  While I was ecstatic to come back to California and only wear one set of things (like pants, coats, socks, hoods, sweaters) at a time, I'll miss the little NYC winter wonderland the four of us got to experience together.  Happy New Year, everyone! 

Monday, January 1, 2018

2017: Year in Review

I've been thinking a lot lately about how I allow certain negative words to spill out of my mouth.  I'm not talking about swear words (although God knows I could do better at that, too), but such commonly uttered phrases as "I don't...", "I can't...", and "I'm not." 

Long ago I decided I wasn't good at math.  Why did I do that?  I always got good grades in math and was always the one nominated to figure out the dinner bill among friends.  And if you know me at all you've heard me proudly proclaim, "I don't run!" but in elementary school I was the fastest girl in my class and gave the boys quite the chase (I wish this was a euphemism, but I'm being quite literal).  To this day I confuse the terms "artistic" and "creative," constantly labeling myself as "not creative," while being skilled at problem-solving, and even writing this here blog.  

Now, don't get me wrong.  One of the greatest things about growing up is learning what you do, and more importantly what you don't, like or have an aptitude for.  And that's a fabulous thing!  I don't like pickles.  I can't remember the names of things.  I'm not into video games.  We make choices.  We try things.  This folds into the fabric of who we are. 

The difference is when we begin to limit ourselves with these antipathies. 

I've actually thought before, after years of thinking marathon runners were certifiably insane, that maybe a 5k charity run (or walk) would be fun.  Get outside, stretch my legs, live a little.  But inevitably the voice in the back of my head chimes in, "I don't run."  And so far I've allowed that voice to win.  I haven't gone backpacking or returned to skiing because "I'm not adventurous or sporty."  But I bet if I gave myself the chance,  I'd really love both those things. 

Of course, as women, we are more likely to cut ourselves down before we even begin, to presume our skill level as well as our prospective enjoyment.  It's less that we actually believe we're not capable than that there's so much negative, suppressive energy projected at us, that we begin at very young ages to believe it. As a result, we put ourselves right into our own boxes and tie a pretty little bow on top, proclaiming, "I'm so not into ____________, it's the worst," or "I could never!"

So in 2018, while I know there's no way to eradicate these words or thoughts from my vocabulary and very being, I want to at least be more self-aware of when I'm doing it.  To challenge myself to peek out of, and occasionally even break down those invisible barriers.  To focus on all the things I am good at, and to continue to build those skills.  And when that voice in the back of my head starts to whine, to tell it to f*** off.  I encourage you to join me.  Then maybe in 2019 I can focus on the swearing.

In 2017, I...

Hiked Diamondhead, swam in a waterfall, and chilled with sea turtles in Hawaii with Britt
Joined WILpower, a women's skill-building and networking program and community
Cast spells in Hogsmeade
 Hugged farewell as several friends moved away from the bay
Made significant progress in reading with Lucero, my tutee
Welcomed a new member (and our first boy!) to book club
Really upped my own reading game, with 43 books read this year!
And while we're on the topic, got to meet our favorite book club author
Celebrated my dad's retirement with friends and family
Kept on calling this magical, crazy, beautiful city home for the 5th year
 
Got promoted to Manager
Toasted to 30 many times over...
 Brittany
 James
 Ashley
 
Shawn
 
Ari
 Choreographed and performed a baller nostalgic dance for my best friend
 
Helped make a watermelon explode by rubber bands alone 
Did acroyoga, terrifyingly, for the first time
Got lots of baby and doggy cuddles!
 
 Enjoyed a magical summer night of silliness, ice cream, and shovel guitar with my family
Saw The Great Comet (NYC), Hamilton (SF), Our Ladies of Perpetual Soccour (London), An American in Paris (SF), and Aladdin (SF) in theater
 
Laughed my ass off at the magical lighthouse 
Won the office kickball tournament (shocked the hell out of me) #tourists
Tried to smile as Kasey moved out of the apartment
Started up a Supper Club, eating so far at Californios and Acquerello
 Bought myself a fur for the burr!
 Explored London with my two favorite Ls, Letizia and Lauren
Was reunited at this beloved table with my adoptive Italian family
 Nonno peeled me a peach (it's the little things, guys)
 Went on a Calabrian Safari
 
 Rode on a train...on a boat
 Discovered there exists such a heavenly thing as ricotta-stuffed crust
 Enjoyed aperitivo from this breathtaking balcony
Successfully baked bread
Transformed into my favorite Disney princess
Started meditating daily
Tried to do good in the world by organizing volunteering events at work that benefit children, disaster victims, the homeless, and more
 
Got down with our bad selves while celebrating Alex and Maryana in Puerto Vallarta
Upped my points game, and got almost all my flights this year free
Persuaded Box's Women's Network to sponsor WILpower, providing scholarships for more women to participate in this transformative program
Celebrated love at both Ian and Maryana's weddings
 
Finally got to see the Rockefeller Center Christmas tree!
 Celebrated my birthday on the west and east coast
 Not rang but sang in the new year
 Smiled and thanked my lucky stars for the life I've been given and built

Trips
  1. Oahu, Hawaii
  2. Los Angeles, CA
  3. Ukiah, CA
  4. Denver, CO
  5. Whiskeytown, CA
  6. Austin, TX
  7. Chicago, IL
  8. Lake Berryessa, CA
  9. New York, NY
  10. Pescadero, CA
  11. England (London) and Italy (Calabria and Sicily)
  12. Puerto Vallarta, Mexico
  13. Guerneville, CA 
  14. New York, NY
Concerts

This year was quite slow for shows (I think I substituted live theater)...but I'm already looking forward to two big names next year!
  1. Dua Lipa @ GAMH
  2. DJ Snoopadelic (aka Snoop Dog) @ Bill Graham 
  3. Aquilo @ The Chapel
Became obsessed with:
  • Meditating (Download Headspace now!  Seriously, try it!)
  • Buddha bowls (I know I'm really starting to sound like a hippie now, but these are just delicious)
  • Non-fiction (Who knew!  I've learned so much.)


Good to meet you, 2018.  Let's go get it!